Many women have trouble reaching orgasm. According to this article, and consistent with common sense, men generally reach orgasm more easily than women.
It's said that most women have to learn how to have an orgasm, and a considerate partner should help her. Some women can reach orgasm via masturbation but not from intercourse. Some women report never being able to climax.
For most men, sex without orgasm would be frustrating and even uncomfortable. Is the same true for women? That is, are women generally unsatisfied with sex unless they climax? Or do women enjoy sex even without orgasm?
The implications of this information may be controversial. If it turns out that most women enjoy sex even without reaching orgasm, some men may use that as an excuse for rushing the sex act. If, on the other hand, most women are frustrated unless they climax, then it's important for men to know this fact.
Regardless, both men and women probably need to learn how to increase female sexual satisfaction -- and male sexual satisfaction too, for that matter.
Note: many of the commenters ask for advice on achieving orgasm or increasing pleasure. I am not a sex therapist but I can recommend the following:
See a doctor or sex therapist if your sexual problems are a major concern.
Women, don't be shy about telling your partner what you want and about taking things into your own hands. If necessary, touch yourself before, during and after intercourse, or direct your guy and tell him what to do with his hands and lips.
Women, learn how your body responds. Try touching yourself and masturbating when you're alone.
Men, take your time. Don't rush to penetration. Kiss and touch your woman the way she wants to be touched: everywhere, but especially on her clitoris. Ask for and listen to suggestions.
Be loving during sex; it makes it sweeter.
Buy over-the-counter lubrication (with glycerin and propylene glycol). Apply it before and during penetration.
Consider trying a vibrator or other sex toy.
Study books and webpages on the topic.
Read the comments collected below.
There is a lot of variation in tastes and capacities. There's no one correct way to enjoy love making. Take the time to find what works for you.
I usually enjoy sex even without coming, especially since it's so much work to come. If I've recently come, I prefer not coming again, since the stimulation can be uncomfortable. But if I haven't come in a while, I certainly prefer to.
Personally, I'm so sick of hearing that sex without orgasm is supposed to be satisfying for women. It isn't. At best, it's boring, at worst it's uncomfortable. My husband would get A LOT more sex if he would only learn how to follow gentle direction in the bedroom. Unfortunately, his ego and enthusiasm both get in the way.
♥ I hear ya sister!
♥ Yes! I am in full agreement here with what you have said. Thanks for saying it so directly what i have been hesitating to voice.
♥ You sound like my frustrayed wife, if only I could fuck for long enough - I feel so unlucky in that, wish my wife had better.
♥ I have never had a orgasm during sex. i always have my man finger me before and after so i am satisfied.
♥ This! Exactly!!!!!
♥ I like to come at least once when having sex.
♥ I know that a woman likes to orgasm when she has sex, but if she is not in the "mood" then she won't have an orgasm. Even though I try to get her in the mood.
♥ I hear ya!! It's usually all about them. Men just don't have patience, because women tend to take A LOT longer to reach an orgasm. NOT FAIR!!
♥ I agree. He always says he going to be satisfied but it's not his fault if I don't reach orgasm. I think that men need to learn how to use their bodies to please a woman instead of always making sex about themselves. And size is always the problem either. [???]
She can come only by herself, that too after a very long time. I have managed to make previous partners come very easily, but no man has ever been able to make her come. She still enjoys (and demands!) sex and occasionally takes matters into her own hands when it comes to orgasm. I have stopped obsessing about trying to give her one, and that's worked out brilliantly for both of us.
Is your woman in menopause? This was the beginning of my downfall with orgasms. The sure Bet was always oral sex. But even that doesn't work now, I feel like my nerves aren't sensitive anymore and even after several minutes, I just can't get there. I always have to grab a vibrator and it's a distraction. It's very distressing and no one seems to be able to help, including doctors, I'm on HRT pellets and want sex more than ever but my body doesn't respond with orgasms, It's becoming depressing and stressful in the relationship. I love this man and want it to work. We are both 52. Thanks for any advice.
When I am physically turned on - horny - feel connected, present and in love with my partner I can reach orgasm in a heartbeat, it happens to me naturally, effortless, ecstatic. Then there are times where I enjoy the physical closeness, my heart is aroused but not my body, it would be "work" to reach orgasm, I am too lazy do get myself or being "worked" towards an orgasm by my partner, that is a downer for me, I enjoy the physical expression of love without putting myself or my partner under pressure, chasing orgasm, I am turned off when sex becomes a performance where the success is determined whether or not you had an orgasm.
I am used to masturbate since 11. So I have no difficulties to reach orgasm. During my marital sex clit rubbing or my vib are efficient helps to get my release. We are happy with it.
♥ I LOVE TO RUB MU CLIT.
I am a female, mid 40ies, Europe. I masturbate alone and during sex usually. I couldn´t live without self stimulation.
I've known 3 women that didn't orgasm during sex. One women suffered, and felt immense frustration. She'd get close but never orgasm. Another women seemed fine just having sex without orgasm. A third girl really wants to orgasm, but has no clue how to. And feels deficient for not being able to experience orgasm.
I love being together with a partner sexually and I am not anxious about having an orgasm, when it happens, great, and if not fine too. There is so much more to sexual intimacy that I LOVE!!! I can imagine that alone the fact that female orgasm it is a topic contributes to stress and disables women... And the hormones are a factor too. Tell me about it. Some days I am so hot and want to climax, and usually get to, and other days I just don't want to go there but enjoy the intimacy and sensuality with a beloved partner. I always wonder why everything has to be black or white. Could life offer us rather than an "either or" an "as well as" reality?
♥ That's great for you, and i'd feel the same, do, but my husband cannot get me to orgasm ever from penetration - all too quick (sad frustrated face) - so I have to be happy with the loving sharing tender sex, pretending the hard eager prolonged and productive sex doesn't matter. Is it having that that makes you feel so at ease with not cuming every time? must be. i'm jealous of so many women on here who at least have had the experience.
Orgasm is not something I receive - my climax - it is something I co create with my partner or myself.
It's best when my boyfriend rubs my clitoris til I come, or until I'm about to come. Then I can enjoy a vaginal orgasm when he penetrates me, and there's no risk of him coming too early.
Intercourse is better for me if my woman has reached an orgasm. I find oral stimulation of her frenulum (where the inner lips meet) and the underside or her clitoris, together with manual penetration of her vagina on the g-spot generally gives her many relatively quick orgasms. Her vagina is then much nicer to be inside as it tightens up and she enjoys further orgasms by my penis.
Really want to enjoy sex with my partner, but I don't. Instead I experience pain, not the enjoyment everyone talks about.
♥ I know how you feel...
I am a 31 yo virgin, so these are the answers that I would like to apply to me when I am happily married and having sex. Also, please put 'Always' as an option and not stop at 'Usually'.
My wife usually enjoys sex even when she doesnt have time to orgasm, provided we make time for her when she wants to -- which is about once every other week. I usually rub her clitoris until she is about to cum, then enter her -- which 9 times out of 10 brings about her orgasm.
She gives me a blow job and that gets her wet. I climax in her mouth and she is fine with that. She does not climax or want me to help her climax. The blow jobs are great.
Oh wow! Do you honestly think she's okay with that? I sure wouldn't be. You wouldn't be climaxing in my mouth, but I'd be expecting orgasms.
My wife does nor want me to touch her clitoris or kiss her nipples.
My partner does not let me rub her clitoris at any time because she says it is painful for her.
In my early sex life I came across very selfish lovers who had no idea how to bring me to orgasm and didn't want to. I found myself drying out more and more frequently until I switched partners. When I finally got to those that wanted to help me achieve orgasm, I found that I couldn't even with a half-hour to an hour of foreplay. I've been masturbating longer than I've been having sex (I couldn't live without it...) and I can reach orgasm in about twenty minutes, but when it comes to being with a partner it's almost impossible, even if they're in the same room (making mutual masturbation an impossibility). It's frustrating, but I've given up on orgasm with a partner and skipped just to enjoying the sex for what it is. And if I dry up and it gets painful, I just switch to giving him a blowjob to help him reach his own climax. (Age: under 20)
♥ I understand this....I don't think I ever climax...
You seem to have a bit too much experience for someone under 20. Maybe you should take a break from sex and focus on other things for a while.
♥ Hey im under 20 and i know how you feel. Dont let anyone tell you about to much experience. I'm a total feminist and i switch partners when it gets boring. Its all about how you feel. I can never reach orgasm with anyone.
My wife does not like her clitoris to be touched manually. She tolerates oral stimulation but prefers that I avoid the clitoris. (70+ male)
Sometimes when she doesn't climax she get satisfied but not relieved.
I need to know the best way to sexually satisfy her. (Reported that he doesn't help her manually.)
I enjoy sex without coming as I take too long to come. But if I get orgasm it's bonus. My partner put his 100% efforts to get me at climax but am 29 years old now and have family and work pressure and sometimes am very tired to reach at climax. So I just enjoy whatever I get. But I love foreplay. That's more important to me.
My partner says, it's not important for her to have an orgasm, to which I say bullshit. It's all about her. I've asked her to say "don't stop" if she thinks I'm "finished" which initiates plan B. An oral finally. (70+ year old male)
I'm involved with a younger man and he has no clue how to make a women have an orgasm. I get fustrated and give up alot in the bed. We been dating 5 months now and not one orgasm with him. One time he tried to perform oral sex and it hurt cause he sucks too hard. He is getting better at kissing and handling my breast. I don't know how to get this issue with sex fixed cause it is very important to me in an ongoing relationship. (40-49 year old female)
I have started a friend with benefits relationship with a guy who is 4-5 years younger than me but didn't know until our first time that he never had sex before and he is almost 23. That's fine too but i would expect him to at least have watch porn or would try to do some research so make the sex better. But no, he said he doesn't want to see 2 strangers having sex. he doesn't know how to do any foreplay and doesn't like kissing. so no cuddling, fondling or stroking whatsoever. it is always I give him a blowjob or handjob to start with. very frustrating
I have always hated having sex and have only ever reached a sexual climax via masturbation. (20-29 year old female)
♥ I relate to this, its actually starting to frustrate me!
Sex can only be sweet when we strive to bring our partners to orgasm. (30-39 year old female)
I have secondary anorgasmia. Not one O in 3 yrs. I practice/masturbate daily. It's enjoyable but never quite fulfilling. It's like eating and never being full, drinking alcohol but never getting more than a buzz,coffee without the caffeine. It's just so saddening. I spent most of most life as a spinster, but now I'm finally ready to have sex because I'm horny, and the orgasm is MIA. A guy may put up with it, but eventually he will forget to bother to make you feel good because it seems like more work than it's worth. It's almost becoming an obsession for me. (30 - 39 year old female)
When I have sex with my partner I love it, but its so hard to reach my cilmax, I really want to be able to have an orgasm, I rarely do, and when I do its amazing, but I find when I'm on top, and my clit is on the right place, I can get an orgasm... But when I get fingered or have sex, I feel sometimes I have to act it... I don't want to do this anymore?!!A (20-29 year old female)
I ALWAYS get her off first. (50-59 year old male)
It's weird because i use to not have a problem reaching an orgasm with a partner but after i had my child it got hard for me to have a orgasm with my partner. Sometimes it might take a long time but i would reach one. Other times i just cant reach one and it really bother me because i really need to reach an orgasm. (20-29 year old female)
Usually I can give a lady an O. But sometimes it can be difficult because I may not be doing something quite right. I am, and all men should always be very willing to take directions to help you get what you need. Never fake it, chances are she isn't an actor. An aware being can tell and feels pitied. (20-29 year old male)
I dont care about orgasm.please help me to feel pleasure during sex pleaseeeeee. (30 - 39 year old female)
I usually do enjoy d stimulation by my partner but i so much want 2 reach orgasm. (20 - 29 year old female who reports she finds it "very" difficult to reach orgasm)
I have sex feel but i am not maried so i use pillow with under is it good. (20 - 29 year old female)
My wife never allows me to touch her clitoris directly, but she reaches her orgasm whenever i rub her pussy, not clitoris depending on her mood. before she used to have orgasm with oral sex, but now only with finger or rubbing on her pussy with hard penis. she really enjoys the orgasm during or after intercourse is over. she never did masturbation although she is in her thirties.
I have NEVER been with a man that has given me an orgasm. Guys that I have been with have been very selfish. They talk like they care about me having an orgasm but like they say actions speak louder than words. Right ladies? The only way I have been able to reach an orgasm with a man is for me to take charge and I am able to reach one within a couple of minutes. Now to put the shoe on the other foot, I have NEVER denied my men, by that I have never said no or I have a headache, ever. Therefore, no one can say I was ever selfish about allowing them to reach climax. (40 - 49 year old woman)
My gf and I have great chemistry. She has multiple orgasms, and is able to orgasm through intercourse as long as we have sufficient foreplay. Learning what your partner likes is key. Take your time!
I really enjoy sex with my partner, it gets really intense and good, but hes very sensitive and reaching climax before me. He wants to please me and he feels horrible that he's not getting me to orgasm first. Hes beginning to doubt our relationship. I tell him all the time i enjoy it even without climax but it's tearing him up especially since I was previously with someone he knew before we got together and that person bragged about getting me to orgasm almost every time we had sex. I just want to know how to orgasm so my partner doesn't feel like less of a man that he can't please me, cause I really enjoy just being so close to him but to keep my relationship safe I just wanna know how to fricking orgasm for him! please help :( (under 20 female)
She rubs her clitoris because she claims only she knows the pressure and how she likes it. Furthermore I've known plenty of women without sexual issues who climax on their own without any clitoral stimulation but these women are European. In my experience it's the American women who have trouble reaching orgasm. (30-39 year old male)
♥ I agree. In my humble opinion, the north American women seem to have a hard time climaxing compared to their europe counterparts.
Sex feels much better if a man is NOT circumcised. It's also much easier to orgasm in different positions. (20-29 year old female)
Men, for the most part have no idea how to make women cum. Sure they are sometimes hot to get fucked.....talk dirty etc. But they get off and assume you have to....if they really knew the pulsating that a pussy makes when orgasaming, then they would realize they have failed. (40-49 year old female)
♥ So true! If a man really knew what it feels like when a woman cums vaginally, a woman would not be able to fake it. The vagina pulsates wildly and it is great!
A partna should always help a woman to reach so that she will not look some where for satisfaction. (70 plus unspecified gender)
I've been wth my partner for 3years nw bt nvr enjoyd sex. he is da only 1 i slep wth. i've never do it wth anyone. sometimes i tel my self that he rush me. as soon as he ok he want 2 do it. sometime i watch porn movies 2 see if i cn get horney and i do. i even feel like i can do it n enjoy it as much i do when watchng it but when having sex real i dnt enjoy it. help me plz. am even about 2 lose hm because he puts all the blames 2 me. n other thing we have a baby boy 2. geta n that happen 1st day he broked my virginity. i thnk he do enjyoy da sex wth me bt i dnt what must i do to enjoy it. (20-29 year old female)
I have never reached an orgasm through regular intercoursse. I have to have oral and even then it can take up to 20 minutes... (female, unspecified age)
I have given up on men and intercourse. No matter what you say, show, or try to educate men about individual, female sexuality, they always conform it to suit intercourse, penis in vagina sex, seeking their own pleasure. Trust me, I have been around for g-spot and deep spot bullshit and sick and tired of men telling women how to enjoy sex. Look at the statistics, over 70% of women all ages never orgasm with intercourse, what men call SEX. And believe me, with 40 decades of experience, I have seen and heard it all from my female friends for eons. Many women suffer through, lying, faking, and trading off sexual pleasure for companionship and support. Many women on their own can climax within five minutes! No need for a twenty minute warm up, so what does that tell you? Guys, wake up, please........Listen to what WOMEN are telling you about their sexual needs, NOT what MEN are instructing you to do to them! It is so frustrating that women are turning gay or to a life of deception and a case of female blue balls! Imagine that every lady you have bedded strokes your penis for five seconds, strokes your testicles for another twenty expecting that to please you, she has an orgasm and you are sitting there gritting your teeth as she rolls over to sleep calling it a night. What would YOU do or feel? (60-69 year old female)
I completely agree with you! Even with a caring partner who tries to look after my needs, and understands sex and female pleasure is not just penis vagina intercourse, it still doesn't totally seem to sink in for him! I know that thinking of sex as a sort of currency is terrible for a relationship, but I can't help keeping track and getting super angry about it. I orgasm maybe one out of every five or six for him. When he gets an orgasm, he happily rolls over and goes right to sleep. When he chooses to focus on me and I have an orgasm, I always seem to be coaxed into returning the favor right there and then! When all I want to do is roll over and go to sleep! And I've had Gus in the past tell me, "oh well guys get blue balls, it's an actual physical reaction so we have every right to be upset. Women don't get that." Oh get over yourself. I'm already beyond sick of it and I'm barely pushing 30.
This is freaking me out! She claims to have had this problem forever, but it still throws me for a loop... I'm not a fast finisher and can last, usually trying to get her there first. Sometimes I hold back so long I find I have trouble reaching one myself. Sometimes I try and try and she can't and that frustrates me and I lose all interest, probably out of insecurities and frustration. I have a large penis and don't think that's it, so I'm like wtf? With direct stimulation and keeping a well lubed rhythm with my two fingers while driving down the freeway from one state to another it took us well into the thirty min mark to get her to have an orgasm. Idk? (40 - 49 year old male)
I had easy orgasms with my 3 exes, we never had to try at it, it just happened easily, and at the same time as each other. We didn't have to think about "how" to have sex and how to orgasm, it truly just happened. Our bodies knew what to do and we just went with the flow without having to think about it. But not with my current partner. It's very difficult to acheive orgasm, for both of us! The only diffence is that he's circumcised. We've been together almost a decade, and nothing works, sex is so annoying and since our first time having sex, I had to fake orgasm, because I didn't underestand what was going on, why sex and orgasm was so easy with the other men, who were virgins, but uncircumcised... I don't know... this makes me so sad... (20 - 29 year old female)
I am not having problems reaching one. i actually do it for no reason sometimes and this has been going on for years. (under 20 female)
I never had an orgasm during intercourse and the orgasm that I had while masturbating wasn't so mind-blowing, so I don't know if it was real or not. I concentrate on his pleasure when I have sex and I don't let him go down on me, because I'm inhibited. I'm starting to feel sad because of all this. (20-29 year old female)
i enjoy it a lot but i dont get satisfied. (20 - 29 year old female)
I have never reached orgasm. I find sex pleasurable and usually very satisfying, but I never orgasm. I've never told a partner that though... I'm pretty vocal during sex (for someone who doesn't orgasm) so they assume I'm climaxing. (under 20 female)
My guy always wants me to but i don't really how to go about. am always high when he is slow and there is perfect erection. (30-39 year old female)
Everytime i have sex with my partner i don't enjoy it and i have never reached an orgasim i always pretend. (20-29 year old female)
♥ Tell him that so u can experiment more.
I get a real "high" from penetrative sex but never orgasm. In my sexual experience I have only had 1 partner who could make me cum effortlessly through oral sex. Others just dont hit the mark..so to speak. That guy just had the right technique! My current partner of 4 years recently said making a woman orgasm was hard work!! I have given up on expecting his help (oral or otherwise to orgasm) and self-pleasure. To be honest I wish it were different, it gets very frustrating and stressful sexually. Feels like my man has become lazy cause he knows I masturbate when he aint around and figures maybe I don't need the attention!! WRONG! When he did take the time..the orgasms were amazing and different from when I self-helped. (40-49 year old female)
I know my girlfriend loves having sex with me, she talks about it all the time. i just want to maximize her pleasure. (under 20 male)
I want by bf to rub my clitoris with his penis. (under 20 female)
If I haven't seen my gf in a long time, then first time we make love I cum quickly and there's not enough time for her to cum. But she says she still enjoys it. Usually we do it a second time within in an hour or two and then she can come if we work at it; but it's still usually difficult not to come before she does. (50-59 year old male)
I once had a gf who could come almost at will. If I entered her, she could come within a few seconds. I read that that may be related to the distance between the clit and the vagina: the closer, the faster they come. Alas, I left her for another woman who treated me badly. (40 - 49 year old male)
I want to climax when I have sex. (20 - 29 year old female)
I don't have a problem to reach orgasm. (20 - 29 year old female)
I wish my girlfriend could too i always make the effort i listen to what she wants. but i can tell she's faking and it hurts me. im starting to get ed cause of it . it also the fact that as soon as she thinks im asleep she masterbates for hours it really hurts me cause i really want to please her in every way it not as if i have a small cock its 8 inches i know size dont really matter. but i dont know what to do cause it hurting me badly im getting very depressed
Sometimes it's too much work to try and come so I just lay back and enjoy it. (40-49 year old female)
im 39 and have never had an orgasm. (30 -39 year old female)
Ok, im a military wife and since he is gone alot I have to do it myself. Ive noticed the pastfew nights I orgasm but not fully. Is that normal? And how can I orgasm again? (20 - 29 year old female)
I think its more important to make your partner nearly reach her climex before intercourse and never intercourse before she really ask for it badly. (40 - 49 year old male)
We usually get me off first since I tend to ejaculate very fast. Then I concentrate on her Clit and G-spot. She can easily have 24 orgasms to my one! (under 20 male)
I find it impossible to have an orgasm. sometimes I feel like its getting close to it then he just comes...
(20-29 year old female)
I always ask her if she did come as I don't want to come alone but if she didn't reach her organs [orgasm] I suck her pussy till she cry my name. (30 - 39 year old male)
I have never masturbated myself to climax...i hardly ever masturbate.i however have climaxd one or two times with a man and used to when i started having sex.i enjoy sex even if i dont climax but i wld love to learn how to again. (70+ female)
Just became sexually active and it been tough trying to reach an orgasim. Sometimes I think something is wrong with me. And almost everytime after sex my guy looks at me and says "still no orgasim?". :) (20-29 year old female)
Women like sex more than men. (30-39 year old male)
Experience should show how not forcing an orgasm can make sex better for both husband and wife. Most often the case for the woman, if her husband is gentle, loving, and she can get past the feeling of being cheated out of her orgasm, their sex lives tend to get much better. In fact if she can embrace the act of making love with her spouse and begin to fully give herself in this way the couple will not only find themselves enjoying a much deeper relationship, but she will look forward to sex more often. This should also help those ladies that have trouble reaching orgasm without outside mechanical help. I wll say however this practice works best when you take the time to be sure she is fully ready, or even close to her orgasm before penetration begins. Then the wife at least has a good chance of enjoying orgasm with you. However during the times when she does not reach orgasm you can enjoy her need for closeness and comfort. There is also something to be said for doing this deliberately while trying to conceive, but delaying her orgasm for 10-30 minutes after her husband. This time will allow the sperm more time to pool close to the cervix without being forced out, then manually keeping her on edge whi E lying close can be wonderful.
PIV [penis in vagina] sex that goes on a while can sometimes diminish my desire for orgasm in the short term but I am very frustrated hours later. (50-59 year old female)
The wife rarely enjoys sex because she does not really like it; I try oral, but she refuses. (70+ male)
My partner is always so worried about if I had an orgasm or not. In the 7 years we have been having sex, he has only made me orgasm once. I hate having to pretend to orgasm to make him feel like he is pleasing me in the bedroom. I do not need to have an orgasm to enjoy sex. My toys always bring me to an orgasm. I just wish he understood that I am not as sensitive as other women and though him touching me feels so good it's never going to be as fast as my vibrator. We have explored using toys during sex but he feels like they "replace him" and make him feel inadequate. The sex is still great after all this time, but I just get myself off when he's not around to keep experiencing orgasms. (20-29 year old female)
Having tried to reach orgasm since I was 14, and then with partners from the age of 18, orgasm is something i've never managed to do. (now early 20's) I try to tell myself to accept it, because as a statistic 10% of women can't do it, and that when i next have a boyfriend, to just pleasure him. But i know for a fact that would cause me to resent him - through my own doing. I can get very VERY close - right on the edge.. and then.. it fades away, nothing. I've tried my hands, vibrators, shower head thing, still nothing. Fed up now. (20-29 year old female)
I HAVE A PROBLEM IF A HANE A SEX WITH MY HUSBAND I DONT ENJOY ,BUT I ENJOY A KISS AND ROMANS [romance?] ONLY AND NOW MY HUSBAND NEED A BABY SO I NEED SOLUTION. (30-39 year old female)
I believe that for all women that don't reach orgasm it is very very frustrating. The feelings of engorgement are there and want to get out . Our clitoris is a very small penis. I enjoy sex without orgasm to be touched and give pleasure . It feels wonderful to be held and to give into lust. Most females or men would I believe agree with this. Without orgasm it's like Xmas w no presents , climbing a mountain and reaching the summit without touching it. It's great. But would be soooo much better to orgasm. The feeling of second best is with me. (50-59 year old female)
I almost never have an orgasm during sex. I usually fake it so he feels comfortable finishing for the sheer fact that it would be way to tiring and take too long for me to orgasm. Usually when he gets up to go to the bathroom afterwards i finish myself. Sometimes I masturbate in from of him and make myself come and that can be fun. However, I am single and can't expect several different partners to each know what they're doing in bed. I still enjoy sex even though i dont orgasm. I enjoy giving someone pleasure even if i don't make it there. (20-29 year old female)
When me and my fiance have sex I orgasm at least 3 times but last few weeks I aint bEen able 2. now he thinks I'm going off him but I don't know what's happening cos he always satisfies me? (20-29 year old female)
Guys always think it's so important to last a long time but really just use your hands and mouth and a female is not timing you I swear. If there's no foreplay or touching involved and I get wham-bam-thank-you-ma'med before i'm even warm, that's the only time I would complain about the time. Just remember that it's not about orgasm most importantly (to me, because nobody gets there better than me), it's more just feeling good :) (20-29 year old female)
I have NEVER reached orgasm with my current boyfriend, which I don't think he knows...but I still really like having sex with him. I guess it's because that I love him and he does put enough effort into foreplay which I like a lot. But it would be just great if I could reach orgasm with him, sometimes it does get frustrating as well. But I learned to enjoy sex without orgasm. Now I'm still exploring ways to orgasm, but at the same time I'm still taking the pleasure of having sex. (20-29 year old female)
Want to enjoy sex reach orgasm during sex without masturbating. (30-39 year old female)
I really wann enjoy my sex what should my partner do to please me nd just enjoy my orgasm. (20-29 year old female)
I think masturbation and general sexual self-knowledge is key to having mutually good sex. Some of my exes who have masturbated regularly since early age have often had orgasms and have not been afraid to tell or show me what they want, and it's been easier for me to read what they want. All girls i've been with who have never masturbated (including my current girlfriend) have had a much harder time coming and i've had a much harder time "figuring them out". I think generelly people should be a bit "selfish" in their sex lives, show what they like and what they don't like. As a man i can definetly say that most of my orgasms never happen while i'm passive, i usually have to be on top or have very clear communication with my partner in order to have an orgasm. Imho many women who do not masturbate don't know what they like, but somehow expect the male to know this and just give it to them. The women who masturbate usually know when they are approaching an orgasm and how to enforce it. Masturbation is the key to good sex. (20-29 year old female)
Yes I climax in like 5-15minutes, but that doesn't mean I'm ready stop. I can go again for hours if she can take it, unless her contractions are strong which just feels amazing and I orgasm. My girlfriend hasn't had an orgasm while intercourse. She loves my hands though because I can give her clitorial orgams like nothing, and she loves that. She dislikes receiving oral, and I don't know why I have been meaning to ask. We almost climaxed together one time but I finished about 20 seconds to early she said. I always give her foreplay, but sometimes she just wants me and I try to do foreplay. I keep going until she says I want you now! Depending on the scene, I can orgasm twice to 3 times in an hour or 2. In between foreplay and oral. Usually once she orgasms she is done, unless I work her up for multiple orgasms which is like 1 in 2 or 3 times because she gets too sensitive. she also just loves to lie there and take it. She can only really be on her back because she said it feels too good and gets weak and drops. So rarely doggy style or she on top. Yes, I like to have sex because she makes me feel wanted and I love that, so when she denies me or pushes me away, or is too busy I get a little sad. It's an emotional thing yes it is. I understand when she doesn't want to have sex, so we stay up talking all night or hours about it or other things or cuddle, and I love that too. But when she doesn't want any of that. Omg drives me crazy. After she orgasms though, she is usually done and I'm not unless we went on for hours and I cam like 2-3 times. Then once I give her a orgasms, I am totally turned on by it but she is always done. I think once or twice we started up again, but she has to stop because too sensitive. Is it me and I can go for too long or is her that once she is there she is done, which is why sometimes I save her for last. Sometime though I give her one real quick and she's done. Shouldn't it be like the other way around lol. (20-29 year old male)
It would be frustrating if I never had an orgasm from sex but I usually do. If I just can't climax though, I don't have a problem with being in it just for his pleasure...I mean that still feels good even if it doesn't end in an orgasm for me. (20-29 year old female)
I really can't say how sweet sex is becouse i have never enjoy it,i realy need help. (under 20 female)
My husband and I have been married for 53 years. At the beginning of our marriage I didn't even know what a climax was because sex was over so quickly and he had no idea he should have to do anything to help me. I wasn't sure what a climax even was so I thought just the good feelings I had must be what a climax was. I studied the subject and discovered that I had no idea what a climax was and deceided I needed help. I realized that my husband needed to start helping me. Up until that point our sex life was him receiving his release and me being the one to make sure that happened. When my husband came to the point of knowing he was being selfish and knowing that I told him I had not had a climax. He started helping me with lots of forplay and even oral sex and I started having climax's. They did not come easily and would often take up to 20 minutes or more but I would climax. It takes a lot of work on the part of the man to bring a women to climax and if he loves her he will do that because he knows she will be so much happier and they will be closer in their relationship. It's sad to me, that women don't understand their bodies and in my time we were not educated on how our bodies work. Men often start masterbating at an early age so they know how their bodies worked. I was things we didn't talk about. Women believed that it was dirty to touch themselves etc. Because of that we have thought there is something wrong with us because we don't have a climax or it takes us so long. How sad. We should not believe that there is something wrong with us we are just different than men and we have to learn how to have a climax and there is nothing wrong with that because when we learn it we are more fulfilled and happier with life, ourselves and in our relationships. It has been a journey for meand the reality is that our bodies change through the years and we have to adjust to the changes. I am 73 years old and my husband is 75. We still have sex, at least once a week. I think the reason is that we have cared for our bodies. We are the same weight we were when we married. We have stayed married and love each other very much. At the age of 75 my husband tells me he likes sex better than he did when we were young because he loves me more. As for me, I still enjoy sex - especially the closeness it brings to us and I know it is important to keep enjoy making love throughout your lives. For my personal sex life, at the age of 73, I can still have climaxes but I don't have a lot of feelings. We have given up my husband trying to bring me to climax. We start by foreplay and my husband reaching his climax and then I use my vibrator. He caresses and kisses me to help me come to climax or if he is just too tired. He falls into a enjoyable sleep and I lay beside him until my climax comes and then we embrase and fall asleep together. Times of the days make a differnce. At this age, morning or afternoon is often the best time for making love. My point in writting this, is mostly for the women. For so many years I thought something was wrong with me because the movies made it seem like women were just like men. Filled with passion and automatically climatic but that's not true. Climaxes are difficult to reach for most women - so you are normanl if that's true for you, but inspite of that it is worth the effort to figure out how your body works and find a way to reach a climax. Either with help from your husband or from a vibrator. Whatever you have to do for yourself is ok and if you figure it out you will be so much more content and happier and so will your husband. I believe God is the one who gave us sex and that it was given to bring greater closeness and happiness to married people and there is nothing wrong or dirty about it when it is enjoyed, as God intended it. (70+ female)
I am a boy, i think that man satisfaction is related to her satisfaction, first times i could have 3-4 orgasms in 2 hours but she had zero, then i was worried about our relationship. I just found out that she was shy at first times, then i told her that it was important thing for me that she should "feel something" during the sexual intercourse. one day she started stimulating her clitoris even not during penetration and saw her reaching orgasm in less than 2 mins, that thing shocked me. anyway i rub but she dislikes it, like im not able to, in order to climax she needs to make it herself meanwhile having penetration from me. (20-29 year old male)
♥ Watch pornos learn and use it on your partner
♥ Make sure whatever you are using to stimulate her is wet i.e. fingers, tongue etc.
♥ Do not count on porn for education. It is strictly for entertainment.
If he lets me do the work while I'm on top it's easier because I can get more pressure . Woman are very emotional creatures , if we are in love with the person we are with and we have that strong passion for them Then I feel it is much easier to let yrself go and lose yrself with them. If yr not that into the guy you Will never orgasim! (40-49 year old female)
I love having orgasms but I wouldn't say it's an absolute must every time. I almost always climax, but I find that making love feels incredible before I orgasm as well. In the absence of an orgasm the physical intimacy and sensation leaves me satisfied. However, I will say that it is very rare for me not to climax. A sustained lack of orgasm would be really disappointing and an issue in the relationship that needed to be resolved. (20-29 year old female)
I think it deffinantly depends on the person. everyone is different. I think maybe the majority can have sex without orgasom and still be content most of the time. My man always feels bad if I don't orgasom like its his fault, I tell him it's not, and try to explain, but I don't think it makes him feel any different. Also when he feels bad I start to feel guilty for not orgasoming , and then he feels bad that I feel bad, and so on and so forth:) (20-29 year old female)
does women erects [eject] semen like man at climax of sex? (20-29 year old male)
For me it's all about communication. You have to let your pride and inhibitions go and tell him what you want. Even if there is only one position and one way to get you there. Clitoris is key unless you have a man who can last a really long time. You must have someone teachable and not easily defensive that you can talk to and are comfortable with. Most women like slow sex vs. thrusting.. The thrusting is only good when you are at the brink of orgasm or actually over the top. (30-39 year old female) ?
I only have an orgasm during intercourse if I rub my clit at the same time. (20 - 29 year old female)
I don't enjoy having sex. (20 - 29 year old female)
I am 54, have been having orgasms since I was 12. Need a guy who is skilled with either mouth or fingers to get me there. Did not believe there was a G-spot until I turned 52...and had an O while on top of my partner with his penis inside me while i was fingering my clit. AWESOME. And it is even better in that position while he fingers the clit. Best O ever. Guys need to know what to do...and women need to know that their guy WANTS to please them. Women get tied up in their heads "I'm taking too long" "He's bored" "My stomach is fat"...whatever. Or women are resentful about something and can't concentrate on pleasure. Or women are with selfish lovers and have not told him to change his ways. I say...leave 'em hangin if that is what they do to you. This topic is ludicrous IMO. Enjoy sex without orgasm???? Are you kidding me??????
My partner who is 59 is not at all interested in sex for the last few years though I am very much interested and try to stimulate her in vain. very rarely she allow me to have thigh [?] sex with her. (60 - 69 year old male)
I've never had an orgasm, and I feel close every time my boyfriend and I have sex. It's amazing, he's amazing, but nothing ever happens. It makes me feel useless. (20 - 29 year old female)
i never can enjoy sex with my husband.thanks a lot for providing this chance.
my husband give me a good cunnilingus... but i dont enjoy sex much inspite of the good foreplay....im scared about myself... (20 - 29 year old female)
Unless I've climaxed already (hopefully twice), you do NOT have permission to come inside of me. Ever. Thank you. (20 - 29 year old female) ?
iam very interest in my partener's clitorius with my tongue before and after the sex (30 - 39 year old male)
For a single woman who wishes to get mind-blowing orgasms without a partner the best suggestion and solution for them is to get a sex toy either a vibrator or dildo, or sometimes a product that serves as both dildo and vibration.There are many ways for a woman to get mind-blowing masturbation without having a man in her life. Getting a good solid dildo from your local sex shop will be any woman's first step to attain pure bliss and instant gratification. Women should pick a dildo that they feel will be appropriate in filling their pussy. I tend to go for big dildos based on black men or black porn stars but thatâ€™s just my preference. Its not a good idea to go and buy the biggest, juiciest looking cock on your first time especially since if youâ€™ve got to do a lot of getting used to the idea.As a consumer you have to remember that most stores would not allow a return especially since the market has deemed sex toys like dildos as novelty items; aside from that, its not hygienic to do so.The second step to attain mind-blowing orgasm is invest in a great lubricant brand. Do away with your KY Jelly and try to look for other alternatives. For a dildo to work really well, you also have to consider the type of lubricant you rub it with. You can't just go and put a silicone based lubricant on a foam based dildo. (40 - 49 year old male)
The only thing that ever brings me to orgasm is a vibrator, and usually in less than 5 minutes. I spent 4 years trying to have an orgasm from masturbation without a vibrator, and years trying to have an orgasm from sex. The only time I ever had an orgasm during sex was when a vibrator was involved. I enjoy sex because it does feel good, and I am glad I have a partner who enjoys making me feel good and does not make me feel like there's anything wrong with me for not climaxing every time. If I worried so much about this sex would become a chore. (20 - 29 year old female)
It's pretty difficult for me to orgasm but find I do reach a sort of "satisfaction" point after a few minutes. It's not the same, but I almost always enjoy the sex regardless. As long as it's fun and we're feeling a connection, it can still be good-awesome. I've hardly ever orgasmed on my own actually. (20 - 29 year old female)
Im only 16, ive had sex loads of times but only with the one person..i cant orgasm or come and its really affecting me and my boyfriend? is this normal? (16 year old female)
i love sex so mch bt i dnt reach orgasm and i dnt knw wat to do to reach it coz i end up nt enjyng sex. (20 - 29 year old female)
I feel broken because I don't orgasm during sex. I am at the point that I can't even get myself off if my partner is around. (40 - 49 year old female)
Im 19yrs old i had my 1st sex this year and i dont get climax easy it take a lot of effort on my man and he usually dont get happy with that because its easy for him to get horny. (20 - 29 year old female)
I truly enjoy sex wit my partner because it is emotionally arrousing even though I never reach a orgasm. (under 20 female)
Seems like sex is designed to favour men. I'm also irritated by the idea that women should enjoy sex without orgasm. If a woman were to stop sex just before a guy came I wonder how satisfied he'd be. My boyfriend doesn't seem concerned if I don't come as he says it's difficult to make me come, funny it only takes me a couple of minutes! (30 - 39 year old woman)
I agree wih this article. I grew up in a conservative family and mostly with traditional people. I never really knew what orgasm is or how you reach it. All I know is that it's more pleasurable doing it myself more than having my partner try help me. (20 - 29 year old female)
I usually find it difficult to orgasm even with a lot of foreplay. However, I still LOVE having sex with my man. He definatly knows how to make me feel incredible either way! I do orgasm every once in a while, but not orgasming does not effect my love of sex at all. (20 - 29 year old female)
I feel many emotions at once. I still enjoy it but I find it frustrating as well. I enjoy mentally the satisfaction he gets but physically I feel unresolved and frustrated. (20 - 29 year old female)
I enjoy the act of sex. getting sweaty and goin crazy with a partner. But if I don't reach orgasm I kinda expect to be taken there by other means... I mean if I came first I wouldn't roll over upon being done, it's only fair to finish em off. (20 - 29 year old female)
I am seventy six and I have a seventy four year old partner. We have sex morning and night. She orgasms several times with each session. I hold off so I can satisfy her completely. We are well suited for one another. My wife of 51 years, now passed, was never that interested in sex which left me frustrated a lot. (76 year old male)
Orgasm is not essential to my pleasure but I want to orgasm 80-90% of the time and I dont. My husband is lazy and rushes and it turns me off and I cant orgasm. I masterbate very often after sex listening to him snore loudly after he has declared that was awesome babe! He often knows I did not come and does nothing about it even when I have asked him to finish me off. Men we need to come too! We need to come often just like you. (30 - 39 year old female)
When it comes to a relationship, I'm sure most females are relatively okay with not reaching climax during intercourse. When it comes to a "hook up", well that's a different story. (20 - 29 year old male)
how can i help myself to improve my orgasm during sex (20 - 29 year old female)
I've never been able to cum by penetration period tried a lot n with different guys just can't do it like that I can only get of by rubbing my clit I can cum while in top by basically rubbing my clit on his pelvic bone don't matter if his Dick is in me or not n have done it on bottom but its harder to tense up n have an orgasm like that basically the Dick ain't necessary period i really dont like sex at all n just do it for him I love getting head though like it with girls better bc I get what i need without having to feta what I dont (20 - 29 year old female)
My partner used to be really focused on reaching a climax. Recently, she seems to not care if she doesn't. Although, it is much more satisfying for me if she does. I generally go down on her before intercourse, and she will either climax or tell me she thinks it is going to take too long and she just wants to have intercourse. ? (20 - 29 year old male)
Just became sexually active and it been tough trying to reach an orgasim. Sometimes I think something is wrong with me. And almost everytime after sex my guy looks at me and says "still no orgasim?". (30 - 39 year old female)
Men will either selfishly rush the act to please themselves or they'll be so set on pleasing you that it's uncomfortable. Don't repeatedly ask, "are you coming", "almost there?", "is this right?" and other such questions. Nothing is going to happen if you're staring at me and bombarding me with questions! Too much pressure, too uncomfortable! So far, the only way I've been able to reach a "median" if you will, is doggy-style, let the guy do his thing and I'll just rub my clit. Unfortunately this means no "emotional connection" which most women want. But it's the closest thing to masturbation...with a partner. Plus you don't have to look at each other. No awkward eye contact. ? (20 - 29 year old female)
I have NEVER came befor durning sex but when I use my toy on my click It feels amazing. I just wish I can come for my boyfriend cause it makes him feel bad and upset with him self when I dont. (under 20 female)
I have never reached orgasm when i sleep with my partner. However when i masterbate i have a weak orgasm still. Im not sure why because i love having sex yet i never come. (20 - 29 year old female)
♥ How long do you do it?
My partner isn't very attentive and is just interested in his pleasure. He knows what I like, and he doesn't do it. I usually climax on top, but he always changes positin soon afterward. We are dating and have had sex a few times now, he wants anal sex now, even though I told him its not my thing. I just feel hes in it for himself. I won't be dealing with his selfish love making for much longer. (40 - 49 year old female)
The majority of women I have been with have NEVER had an orgasm. How would I know this? First my age and experience. And I am a very observant individual. Some women think they have had an orgasm but when they actually start to experience one for the first time they can really get freaked out. Stop, Stop, Stop is generally what you hear. Or they just close their legs and push you away. Sometimes they say they have to squeeze their legs together to get an orgasm but its really that they cant believer what is happening. One woman who thought she was experienced let me take her all the way. She immediately had a terrible headache and I checked her B/P. It was 195 over 120. My opinion is these conditions are brought on by anxiety, nothing else. And subliminal reasons for this situation are first and foremost, control,or lack of control, or the thought of losing control. Yes its mostly purely in your head ladies. With limited certainty I can look a woman in the eyes and tell if she has ever had a real orgasm. Do they all lie about whether they have or not? Absolutely. Ive had women who would swear they have but when they start to reach that point for the first time, most had must as soon grab their skirt and run out the door. Ive been interested in this subject most of my life and have, as stated, been keenly observant during this entire time. Its not like it is a game with most of these women, or that they are totally faking it but the truth is most have never really totally been there. What a shame. (40 - 49 year old male)
Many of the women here have written about enjoying the sex and the feelings even without being able to orgasm, but what do you mean by that exactly? I'm imagining a nice relaxing back massage that feels really good and comforting but isn't too intense. Is that the kind of feeling you are talking about, or is it a better feeling than a massage? I'm just trying to learn a little more so I can get a better understanding of the differences between men and women. I think if everyone tried to learn ways to please their partner and make sure they feel satisfied, we would all be a lot happier. (male)
Many women, I have been with, enjoy orgasms but it's not absolutely nessesarly to have one. It's like my orgasm is somehow satisfying to them in a different way. Like an alter orgasm. The close intimate bonding brings them psychological satisfaction. I believe it's something in women's DNA that drives them to mate and be fertilized for future offspring. Just like males try and have sex with as many women as possible before they get too old. That's my thoughts anyways. (30 - 39 year old male)
I used to be able to orgasm easier during intercourse. Now I usually need a vibrator because I don't feel comfortable enough or maybe aroused enough to do it without one (long story). My husband often doesn't have the patience to wait for me or try to help it along anyway, and I don't like to ask. For whatever reason, I want to be able to have sex in the first place, and he has a lower drive than me, so I spend most of the times doing things to him and he's too tired to return the favour. He's getting better though.. I find it frustrating when I don't orgasm but most times I go into it expecting to not so I don't get over-aroused and then feel frustrated afterwards -- in those cases, it isn't some amazing experience.. it's an adequate one where I get intimacy, which is good as well. Although I admit, sometimes it can get a little boring quick knowing none of this is for me. (But I wouldn't let him know that.) On the times I thought we would have enough time for foreplay or anything designed to help me get off, and then I didn't orgasm in the end, yes, I was frustrated out of my mind. And no, I couldn't finish myself afterwards because I was so disappointed. (20 - 29 year old female)
Uh....you are fooling yourself. Women are accustomed to not getting pleasure in sex....and they just stop trying to be pleased and start settling for being pleasing. I do not know any woman who really does not want to orgasm..we just mind-f%ck ourselves and say it is OK. We get tired of the guys' unwillingness to think about pleasing us. We settle for the other niceties of sex - physical closeness, attention. I like the big O just as much as any guy! O how relaxin!
I have never enjoyed sex let alone reach an orgasm so I think I need help maybe about knowing my body or just knowing more about the act its self. (under 20 female)
♥ Someone is doing somthing wrong. sex Is great and soo Much fun. plz try and enjoy it and get the right person to arouse you.
I fil so bad because i never reach organsm. (20 - 29 year old female)
He tries so hard I'm worked into a frenzy...then nothing. All that energy has too go somewhere so it's like a reverse atom bomb. It makes me nauseous and my lower abdomen aches painfully for hours. Sometimes I get so mad I think of cheating. I need my release too and now I'm anxious and can't sleep and of coourse mad at him even tho he tries till he has only 4 hrs to sleep. Love him don't want his ego hurt. NEED MY ORGASM! (30 - 39 year old female)
She told me that she not enjoying the sex. (70+ male)
To reach my orgasm,i just concetrate every step we take and help my partner what ever he make. (30 - 39 year old female)
I have never gotten a girl to orgasm durring penetration I often try to give her an orgasm by other means and if I am sucessfull it can take around 45 minutes even if she is extremely aroused although more often than not I cant manage and I get absolutely no directions or tips or anything no matter how much I ask and she assures me that she doesnt really care about orgasms but I have alot of trouble believing that since she clearly enjoys alot when she does, but it looks like she is always holding alot back which is a shame. (under 20 male)
I AM NEVER SURE IF I HAVE HAD AN ORGASM YET! (40 - 49 year old female)
We only meet on weekends and so the first time is generally pretty quick and hot. The second time, we luxuriate and we concentrate on her pleasure. If we're not rushed, usually she can cum. Often, though, I notice that in order to make her cum I need to delay or minimize my pleasure. Also, after the first orgasm there's less semen and so the pleasure can be reduced. In such cases sex often becomes work for me, and orgasm isn't so great. Sometimes it's even uncomfortable. Sometimes, though, if she's very wet or if we add lubrication, and if we have time, we have wonderful simultaneous orgasms. If there's a third time, I concentrate on my pleasure. Same thing the next day usually. Having great sex requires time and patience. (40 - 49 year old male)
I neva enjoyed sex in my lyf,i hv 2kids nw 3 nd 1mnths.i crave sex everyday,day nd nyt i want even after i got sum i stl want it,i jst wish he can neva stops.i cnt say no im always ready i cry wen he cumz i jst wanna knw hw enuf feels lyk,is de sumthng i want drink or apply?im desparate plz help. (20 - 29 year old female who reports that orgasm is "impossible" for her)
I do not have difficulty reaching orgasm, often I find it happens far too quickly. I'm sure it sounds strange but sometimes I prefer not to, only because I want to focus completely on my partner, he does not seem to understand why I want to do that, but he does love it. (30 - 39 year old female)
When me and my bf have sex most of the time ,my bf comes way too early and then I am left unsatisfied and frustrated.Is there any way for me to learn how or to better my sexual experience? (under 20 female)
I feel great when ever i touch my pussy but i want learn more and make my to release sperm. [?] (30 - 39 year old female)
I have sex often but it's really hard for me to reach the point were I want too, be [but?] don't know if the problem lies with me. I'm very consern. (20 - 29 year old female)
I love my partner with all my heart, but the sex could be better. When we first got together, i had no problem reaching orgasm because he took the time to make sure it happened. Now, it's almost like sex is 5 minutes long and just for him... Even if I demand oral or other ways of getting off, his lack of enthusiasm turns me off. (under 20 female)
i feel like im not a real woman for failing to climax. (30 - 39 year old female)
Its so frustating not being able to climax i want to cry! No foreplay no nothing. He gets his and thats the end of story. Im buying me some toys!!! That should help me out for a little while. (20 - 29 year old female)
I just want to be licked so I can cum before intercourse. (30 - 39 year old female)
♥ Nothing wrong with that. just enjoy. lucky you.
Iv never had a orgasm in my life. An iv tried everything for my age. But sex is still amazing unless its short. (under 20 female)
I actually used to masturbate often. I reached orgasm more times with video-sex too, but i first had real sex witha guy recently. And his view was different for the whole. He didn't assosiate with this whole climax-orientated sex, so we took as our goal to don't have orgasm in our intercourse. It was amazingly beautiful!! And I enjoyed it more than anything with orgasm before! ? (under 20 female)
I want to know that I use to climax always whe having sex but this few day I can't, is there something wrong? (20 - 29 year old female)
Want help to reach orgasm without difficulties. (30 - 39 year old female)
I do want to make pleasure longer before get on orgasm during sex. (30 - 39 year old female)
Some of these questions don't reflect me bc, for example, I may not have sex often bc have not been in relationship for a few months but if I was in one, I'd like sex 1-2 times a day. Also, re: do I enjoy sex w/o orgasms, I can as long as the majority of interactions result in orgasms. (40 - 49 year old female)
I don't get frustrated. it just seems that I can't. but my partner gets VERY frustrated that he can't get me to orgasm, he tries so hard! And often worries I don't like it. (20 - 29 year old female)
Id want to learn how to reach climax during intercourse so as il reduce mastabating. (20 - 29 year old female)
i want to reach squirting out real orgasm when having sexual intercourse in less than 15 munites..how will that be? (20 - 29 year old female)
I really don't enjoy sex without climaxing. And I don't ever climax. (under 20 female)
I always masturbate her to orgasm before intercourse. (20 - 29 year old male)
For me if I'm not Getting an orgasm at least once during foreplay or sex I get very tense and frustrated, and I tend not to enjoy the sex very much. To me it's important everyone deserves a partner who is willing to meet there needs. (under 20 female)
Pls help me cos im unable to reach my orgasm and my husband has left me for the past one month because of this. (20 -29 year old female)
I have never had an orgasm or come durring intercourse. It's very frustratiing for my partner, he feels like he is doing something wrong. (HE'S NOT, IT'S GREAT!) I enjoy having sex even though it doesn't happen but I wish just one time it would. (under 20 female)
Only once I reached climax when I was 24 yrs...but now am not reaching climax while having sex ...only by fingering am able to y so..m I healthy in sex... (20 - 29 year old female)
I slept with 9 different mental [men???] for [before?] meeting my husband who happened to be a virgin and on the night he lost his virginity I actually had an orgasm and everytime after we have had sex I have orgasms on the leave [???] he is amazing. (30 - 39 year old female)
I'm 30 yrs old and only just started orgasming in the past few months with the help on battery opperated toys. My husband hates using them as he would prefer me to come with his help only -- which has never happened. We are trying to conceive so are having lots of sex. I feel so dissatisfied each time I don't come or he can't wait for me to come during sex, it's hard to not cry each time. He feels like he should be able to make me come himself and says it is demoralizing that I want to get the toys out. I feel guilty and that I need his permission to use them during sex. (30 - 39 year old female)
What can I do to help my wife to have climax during intercoures. (60 - 69 year old male)
Frustrating - never had an orgasm. (under 20 female)
The pleasure for me seems to depend on the amount of her lubrication and on the amount of cum I eject. If she's very wet (maybe from added lubrication) and if thrusting and withdrawing stimulate my cock just right, I get huge and swollen and the orgasm feels hot, liquid and blissful. (30 - 39 year old male)
i just dont find sex as good without the orgasm. and about question 7, i would want him to help me orgasm (if he did it first), but just no. [He doesn't help.] if i dont orgasm during sex i can just forget about it untill next time. ;/ (20 - 29 year old female)
Never orgasmed, my clit doesnt feel good at all, and sex is frustrating to me. I hate it. (under 20 female)
My husband is like a wam bam thank you mam. It never was like that, but for about the last 2=3 years he has not touched me nor did any foreplay with me. It's just stick it in, get his rocks of and then he is done he doesn't even worry about me. I am just glag it's over. Am I wrong for feeling that way? Could someone please give me some advice. (50 - 59 year old female)
My husband has premature ejaculation and doesn't understand the frustration and tension he leaves me with. I hate it. (30 - 39 year old women)
I don't know if i have reach an orgasm, i don't know how to tell if i have or not. (50 - 59 year old female)
after having sex with my husband for 20 years, i finally learned in my 40s, after a hysterectomy, how to have an orgasm. I never knew i wasn't orgasiming - i enjoyed the sex & didn't realize i wasn't climaxing. i feel it might have been a control thing - me not being able to let go. sex toys help me reach my orgasms. (40 - 49 year old female)
I'm a healthy sexually active 18 year old and I've never orgasmed during intercourse. It's a real bummer but that doesn't prevent me from engaging in the act as it feel great while I do it and human contact feels better over a toy or shower any day. (under 20 female)
It seems to be more emotional than physical for me. If I'm not really into the guy, then sex without orgasm is fairly boring. If I'm really into him, sex is great whether I have orgasms or not. That said, if I'm really into him I'm more likely to have one or more orgasms - but there are exceptions, like if I'm not feeling well (I have fibromyalgia) or on new medication, or haven't slept well, or just at a low point in my hormonal cycle. (20 - 29 year old female)
I've never been able to climax with him..but he can cum soon after sex..its very frustrating for me because i would love to have orgasm with him..i can climax by masterbating..but never try it after sex...i wonder what is the problem..i masterbate in a very unusual way like rubbing my pussy over the edge of a chair..and i need hearly few min to reach orgasm. please help.
Sex feels good in general, but it just zaps my energy and takes a lot of focus. (under 20 female)
I think she enjoys even without. (under 20 male)
My wife always comes before me and becomes ticklish right after her orgasm, so that really spoils the mood quickly..cannot touch her period...I'm left there high and dry..that sucks. (60 - 69 year old male)
I've only ever orgasmed through masturbation and once i learned how to I sort of became addicted and now am a very avid masturbater. I used to use toys but I've become good at pleasing myself with just fingers. I don't think ive ever really been with a guy concerned enough about me to care if i orgasm or not but the sex is usually great regardless. I think the stimulation of having a penis thrusting inside you is amazing. I can only imagine what that feels like in conjunction with an orgasm. (20 - 29 year old female)
Multiple Os! I've always been very sexual though, not a slut! Been with my bf 8 years. He's large so that helps, and I love him- that helps. But mostly be honest with yourself. Know what turns you on and use it! I have multiple orgasms usually and rarely don't reach one. (20 - 29 year old female)
I may be a little young to have started having sex but my girlfriend and I love each other, she always comes during sex. I always try to make her come, usually I will perform oral before vaginal intercourse and rub her clitoris during vaginal. She seems to enjoy sex a lot before she comes, which usually takes 10 minutes. (under 20 year old male)
What is the purpose of the female orgasm? My (uninformed) hypothesis is that a man who helps a woman reach orgasm will likely also be a man who loves his woman and will support her and her kids.
So, if a man can bring a woman to orgasm it indicates he's a good man. Plus maybe it requires him to be healthy and have self-control.
Steps: 1) Foreplay. 2) Oral sex for female orgasm. 3) Penetration for male orgasm. 4) Not leaving. :-) To expound on answer #4: I have been separated from my wife for two years, and have had no partners in that time.
I have never had an orgasm before and don't know how to have one. (under 20 female)
I wnna cum while havin sex. (under 20 female)
I can enjoy sex everyday vit my wife she also love to do sex (20 - 29 year old male)
In actual fact i love and enjoy sex alot, but i'm not sure whether i do reach an orgasm. I dont know it's orgasm time but i do enjoy and i know when i've not enjoyed sex. So does that define orgasm? (20 - 29 year old female)
The first time we do it after being apart for a while, my gf is usually dry and tight. I can't last that long and she doesn't bother trying to come. The second time I last longer and we work hard at making her come. By the third time (often the next day), she's more open and says she's OK with not coming. She reports that she finds it really enjoyable when I come in her. (50 - 59 year old male)
After 40+ years together we are just trying to open up and do anything that feels good. (60 - 69 year old male)
The only time I don't enjoy sex without orgasm is if I'm extremely aroused. Then, its uncomfortable, painful and frustrating physically and emotionally. If I'm giving my body to my partner and I'm not aroused, I enjoy the closeness, pressure of penetration and knowlwdge that he at least will achieve orgasm. (40 - 49 year old female)
i want every times orgasm. (under 20 female)
love to have sex more then a hour but his sperm always comes out within 2 to 5 minutes....i believe my sex is higher then my partner....but once i had sex with other man but his pannis is too small that i could feel as my size of finger....i love larger pannis to have sex....n also sometimes i suck his pannis but he never lick my sexy pussy....love to have even 10 times sex per night (under 20-29 year old female)
Help me! am so ashamed of not having orgasm. (under 20 female)
I am a lucky woman as I can orgasm very easily with clitoral stimulation, which I do often during intercourse. Most, if not all of my partners has thought it was "HOT" that I touched myself during sex & it helps me to cum, which makes my partners very happy, as well as me. I am lucky to have not only a well-endowed partner but a long-lasting one. It makes me sad to see how many people are confused as to how to orgasm -- explore your body. Women that want to orgasm to please your men -- START PLEASING YOURSELF! You can't tell them how to get you off if you don't even know yourself! Women, stop letting your husbands use you as sex toy and demand better sex! The number one most attractive quality in a mate is a partner that enjoys sex. Women, initiate, take the reins, show them what you want! Men get lazy when they don't get results. Stop being afraid to get you some sex! Stop repressing yourself! Orgasms are not only amazing physically, but they truly bring me and my partner closer when we're able to climax together, due to good communication in bed.
Womens use sex toys and say bad things and stuff about the man, right:)? Lets turn it around laydies okey:)?? what do you womens say if we men start buying sex toys to have fun with just like you womens have fun with Vibrators and Dildoes. we men shoud start buying fakes Pusssys with vibrators i am sure thats gonna be all fine for the womens. because i tryed those men toys they feel alot better then womens Vagina just saying:) so i honnestly just say let the womens play with there Dildoes and Vibrators its all fine because evryone knows its better to wank / using men sex toys you never get bored of the men sex toy:D so to all men buy sex toys for you're self and lets see how you're girl will react to it:). and the womens need to acsept it just like they think we shoud ascept them buying sex toys. ofc you womens feels its okey we men use sex toys dont you girls? :D
Don't be ignorant. Women buy sex toys ONLY because they need extra stimulation to reach orgasms just like men are able to do by simple penetration. Have you ever had issue with reaching orgasm through regular sex? I highly doubt it! Women level the playing field with toys so they can have orgasms too. Educate yourself and you will understand that approximately 70% of all women DON'T have orgasms through just penetration. However, if you feel you need to buy a toy to have an orgasm, by all means do it. That's a very strange thing for a man to require for an orgasm though. It sounds as if you're threatened by a woman taking matters into her own hands to have the same pleasure that you have. Vey selfish outlook on a partnership. There are two people in the bedroom and both deserve pleasure!
♥ What a gender war!
I don't enjoy sex when my partner penetrates in me unless he plays with my clitoris more. that is when I will reach orgasm. I want to enjoy it very well when he penetrates into my vagina.
(20-29 year old female)
No way keep away from the clit. Will organism with a vibrator every time. Is 60 now. Been using a vibrator to orgasm since she was 19.
(50-59 year old male)
I climax if he is gentle. the penis has to be fully panetrated & make moves slowly without pulling it out! So its hard 2 have him slow all the time coz I think he likes it more powerful pumps.
(20-29 year old female)
I never orgasm through intercourse, only occasionally through oral sex. I can orgasm easily through masturbation. My husband is clueless!
(40-49 year old female)
I think my partner is selfish the more i think of it. we have been having a sexual relationship for over 2 years and I had never once have orgasm. Even though we are in a long distant relationship so we don't see each other very often but whenever we do see each other we would have sex. To be fair, sometimes he couldn't have an orgasm too but only because he can't stay long and have to go, so we can't continue. But other times, after he came, he would just lay down. whatever happens to also take care of the lady's need. I know for a fact that with his ex girlfriend he had been petting her and by that he meant fondling, touching & stroking. he even told me that she was excited and became loud and moaned, My question is, why can['t] he do that for me too? it is always I who give him a blowjob to start, and then i get on top, then we switch to missionary. If he can't make the lady come with his penis, at least use his hand.
(20-29 year old female)
but i never enjoy sex bc my bf doesnt even try to make me orgasam.
(40-49 year old female)
I have learned not to expect to orgasm during sex. It takes too long - an hour at least these days - and my partner just cant stay "in the moment" with me for that long. He feels left out and distanced if I try to orgasm next to him. He tries to touch my legs or my breasts and be a part of the experience with me, but really, that just distracts me and makes orgasming even more difficult. So, to spare his feeling and keep me from feeling guilty, I have orgasms when I'm alone, and have the time. This sort of works, and I still like sex with him, which we have about 4 times a week. But I am struggling with feeling very distant from him because its so easy for him, and he just assumes my strategy works for me, and we are both happy. I think one of the reasons we have sex so often is that I'm never quite satisfied.
(30-39 year old female)
Never quite satisfied, huh? I find that even when I cum, during intercourse, it's kinda unsatisfying. Not every orgasm is great. If I have to concentrate on her pleasure or if I have cum recently, it's often somewhat uncomfortable. Great sex is kindof rare, end even when it happens the satisfaction doesn't last very long.
Frustrated wife, husband of 20 years cums soooo quick. I only need a man for 10 minutes and id cum - help.
(40-49 year old female)
Sex without orgasm is every bit as unsatisfying for women as it is for men. Unfortunately, whether it's ego or excitement, in my experience, my husband is unable to follow my advice on how to please me. I've tried gentle, positive guidance and frank discussion, books, you name it. He does whatever feels good to him. As a result, masturbation is faster, easier, and far more fulfilling for me than sex with my husband.
(30-39 year old female)
I am a 31 years old I don't like sex if I just 1 round maybe 2 weeks time its enough but my husband is so active after first round he wants another round he even wake up in the middle of night and early in the morning. if he does 3 or 2 round he is so happy but I don't feel like doing it second time. 1 round its enough for me sometimes I don't even climmates. I ask him that is okey now he feels like I don't love him or I don't have feelings for him please help me out
(30-39 year old female)
I perceive she is not interested in sex because of some of her health issues which are not sex related. She often works too hard and I perceive that she is too tired to really want to have sex. I feel like she will rarely be "well" enough to have sex despite the differences between male and female sexual desires, which we have discussed together.
When sex is over, the man is relieved and uninterested. There's no point in forcing him to get me off. He's just being nice and wishing for me to come quickly and get it done with. The fact that he doesn't want to turns me off so that I don't bother finishing myself off either. It's pretty unsatisfactory and frustrating. It's very unfair men get to come easily every time.
(20 - 29 year old female)
In the past, when sex was with someone I didn't love, sex without orgasm was a no-go. But today, I LOVE having sex with my BF! From the kissing to intercourse and all the stuff in-between. Not sure if it's because I'm head-over-heels or because I'm 30? I just have a hard time reaching climax. A lot of the time it feels like I'm about to reach but then it goes away, even with keeping the same pace/stroke. My BF doesn't understand that, even without orgasm, I LOVE being with him. It feels so good with or without. I do wish to go more often simply to please him. I don't want him feeling like I'm not satisfied.
(30 - 39 year old female)
Sometimes i want a penis inside so bad i think i'll go insane.
(50 - 59 year old female)
Seems I'm always guessing what she needs to be happy. 6 months ago she wanted foreplay with more than just clit stimulation including breats and touching. Now just clit stimulation and I better finish making her orgasm with penetration or she just gives up on me. I would like people to respond with email and my address is ....
(30 - 39 year old male)
My boyfriend and I for threee years have been having intimacy but lately he ejaculates before i get to orgasm. It pisses me off to the point i don't want him to touch me. Or even be around..i hate it so much.
(under 20 year old female)
I recently just learned how to have up to 6 orgasms during love making. Its great! Everytime we have intercourse i have 4 or more orgasms a time! been married 9 yrs to same man no cheating & no toys just him! (20 - 29 year old female)
I am in mid 50, my partner 29. We have no problem in our sexual life. I normally take her to orgasm most time before i tried to climax myself. This is because i discovered that as long as i did not look into her face i won't climax. [Is he serious?] (50 - 59 year old male)
Still enyoy penetration and intimacy without orgasm, just love everything else: the foreplay and oraland intimacy.
(over 70 female)
I reach orgasim without even really enjoying sex. how boring!
(20 -29 year old female)
I'm 18, and have been sexually active with my one boyfriend for two years. He climaxes everytime. And I just can't unless I am on top. I've told him this many a time before. He doesn't understand. I can't climax otherwise. I get over it usually, but if it's the third or fourth time we've had sex in two weeks and I still haven't had any fufillment I get upset because of the frustration build up. I break his heart when he knows he cant make me climax. I just need to understand why this might be happening.
(18 year old female)
i think all depend on emotional bonding. earlier we used to have sex very frequently, almost everyday. moreover i used to have orgasm every time. things got worse whith our emotional bonding. now i dont feel loved and cared by my husband so i dont feel like to have sex with him(so i masturbate when i'm alone). secondly even if i get aroused sometimes and have sex with him i dont have orgasm. I remember i had my last orgasm with him was 4-5 months back though i have orgasm everytime i masturbate. for me its all about emotional bonding and dependency. i'm so frustrated , dont understand what to do.....
(30 -39 year old female)
I rub her clits to satisfy her, I want her orgasm during sex. Does it because my penis is small for her?
I want to get help so that i will enjoy sex, not getting hurt or pain.
(20 -29 year old female)
My girlfriend and I have great Sex we stimulate each other Partly before we have sex, I Wil never have an orgasm before Sex but she like's oral or G-spot Fingering she really absolutely Loves it and rubing her clitoris During sex makes her orgasm as Well soo we just talk to each other And if she's really not up for Any thing I let it go and our sex Is gr8 (Male's respect your Gorgeous wife's).
(under 20 male)
Since it was me i never orgasm during sexual intercourse. i only orgasm when i masturbate but the strange thing is 2 years bck i had a onceoff sex whith a guy i usually knw and i did reach orgasm. that was the 1st time ever. with the guys i've dated i havent orgasm. dont know why.
(20-29 year old female)
She gets orgasm by herself.
(30-39 year old male)
I love sex with my partner. he always takes care of me, orgasm or no orgasm. :-)
(20-29 year old female)
Have not hadhomosexual sex, and haven't had sex with my partner for over 7 years. cannot masturbate or get an erection any longer.
(60-69 year old bisexual male)
my husband sexual part is so small. always i am suffering to get full climax during sex. please tell me what can i do.
(30-39 year old female)
used to the situation
(30-39 year old female)
So hard climaxing but my man's satisfaction I believe is my utmost priority
(30-39 year old female)
♥ I think you deserve satisfaction too.
help me its so hard to and yes im a woman but wat do i do to have an orgasm everytime
(20-29 year old female)
i am 22 and i am having sex with a women 47 years old she is amazing and sexy and i do love her more than my life to death and while intercourse i get so much exited and my cock is so hard and big and she is so much satisfied but the problem is that i can't cum or reach the trance and come so fast, it take more than one hour but her, she cum too fast so just i need to know how can i get cum fast and why it takes so much time with
(20-29 year old male)
With the addition of lubricants sex is wonderful, i have been with ladies up to 75 years old. that one actually loved sex weekly.
(60-69 year old male)
Sex starts before entering the bedroom. I like to greet my wife after she comes home from work by giving her a long hug and asking about her day. Sometimes we just embrace for several minutes without saying a word. As far as sex goes, we spend quite a bit of time just holding, touching and kissing. After that will I start to touch her breasts and pussy very lightly. Sometimes she will have me enter her and I will work her g spot with the tip of my penis. I then stimulate her clit and then guide her hand to it. She goes wild and explodes into an orgasm usually withing 15 mins. Sometimes I will stimulate her with a vibrator to get her going. A lot of times she prefers the more intense g spot orgasms. I usually use some lube and manually work her g spot until she has an orgasm that is so intense she is trembling. I put her orgasm before mine every time as I want her to feel completely satisfied. This also does another thing, it makes her want to have frequent sex. 33 years together and this boat is still rockin to the max. The main thing is that you have to know what each other wants and talk about what you like and don't like. I feel bad for the ladies that have men that do not care what their needs are.
(50-59 year old male)
My husband is VERY concerned is I "get there" or not. I have not before and explain to him that it's ok with me. I wanted the closeness, the bond and the emotional tie, not the orgasm. He doesn't understand it but it does make him feel better. Otherwise he would think he didn't do his 'job'.
(20-29 year old female)
My wife does not like her clitoris touched....
(50-59 year old female)
I had a hard time with the idea of becoming sexually active again. But a friend mine was starting to fall in love with me. I told him I wanted to try making love again. He let me take the lead and made me feel safe. I am 69 and he is 44 so the whole thing felt very exciting. The first few times were not easy as it had been over 20 years. It was a bit painful but now it is most enjoyable.
(60-69 year old female)
I feel like I'm going to reach the climax. but if I don't I get frustrated and I panic. sometimes I fake as if I've reached.
(40-49 year old female)
My husband cares only about his orgasm. He is a selfish lover. Men need to know that a LOT of women like intercourse and are orgasmic if they know their own bodies and their partners know their (women's) bodies.
(60-69 year old female)
I take too long to come and I get dry too quickly.
(20-29 year old female)
I would love to stimulate my wife's clitoris after intercourse, but she usually says don't touch there after intercourse.
(40-49 year old male)
Honestly I hardly reach my orgasm but when I talk to my boyfriend during sex that have not reach my point he always looked at me like a sex lover.
(20-29 year old female)
I really want to reach orgasm but I also don't like havingmy clit touched.I can have intintercourse for hours and stil not feel satisfied.I always just want more.
(20-29 year old female)
I have this weird spot above my clitoris. After rubbing it the right way for a bit, I go into this pleasure frenzy without having an orgasm. I literally have to stop or make my fiance stop because it is just too much. It is more pleasurable than an orgasm and that worries me.
(under 20 female)
we don't do any foreplay at all. :(
(40-49 year old female)
My boyfriend and I have sex once each month because we don't get to see each other often on weekends. The sex is very great and I sometimes wish it could never end but I never seem to reach an orgasm. I try not to fake it but he is so good I just have to. And everytime we done I have to go to the bath room to pee but whenever I finger myself I have an orgasm like 3 times in a row.
(under 20 female)
While sex feels good even without reaching orgasm, if I don't reach orgasm after it ends I am left frustrated and develop a migraine every time, and the only thing that'll cure it is orgasm. (female)
I think I have an active sexlife...might not be what I really want but so far my man turns me on and I enjoy his dick so much! (30-39 year old female)
Hi I need your help my husband trys every way possible to please me...I love the feeling,but unfortunetly its very hard for me to orgasm during sex.....I can't think of anything in the time of intercourse to arouse me (20-29 year old female)
am having too much discharge nd it changes colours but less fluid when having sex.i dont get horny even if i try i just have sex to please my partner and it has caused me an infection.what can i do to be horny so i can have fluid...pls help
(20 - 29 year old female)
♥ Sounds like you should go see a doctor.
How can my man reach the clitoris in a second?
(20 - 29 year old female)
♥ What do you mean?
I haven't been sexually active for almost a year and now i found a man and i spent a whole weekend with him and we had sex but i havent climaxed during sex that we had the whole weekend and it takes him a loooong time for him to enjaculate and me, I didnt evenn climaxe once... Is it becoz i havent been ative for a long time?? Plz help me.
(20 - 29 year old female)
Am obssesed on musterbating more than having sex with him. b4 I gt horny i have 2 think how much i enjoy having musterbating, atherwise i will stay dry.
(20 - 29 year old female)
When am with my man having sex am alwys pretend am come bt true Am nt come bt when am alone doin my self i do. plz help. wich homornes do i hve bio/ les am confused.
I find it pretty easy to reach orgasm by myself, especially activating my core muscles, but my clit seems to lose all sensitivity during intercourse. Still love sex though. (20 - 29 year old female)
Not having an orgasm makes me feel very frustrated and unsatisfied. It drives me crazy and makes me very angry. (20 - 29 year old female)
i have never had an orgasm, and i have never masturbated it sucks, i need help, someone please help me. (20-29 year old female)
Loving ok then y those blak men do a harsh mode and ...she enjoys..
I have a fuck buddy and have been with him for years. We hook up when we both happen to be single and I've been single for a while now. It didn't used to bother me that I never reached an orgasm because when we started I was young and just figured time and patience would help bring me one. When I turned 19 I started masturbating and it was fantastic. At this point though I realized it was kind of annoying to not orgasm during sex. I asked him if he would be willing to try oral sex or something with me to get me off, he said 'sure' and then it never happened. I brought a vibrator to help him out and asked him to use it on me, so he took it and used it for about 2 minutes and then just said "can't you just do it?". It has become pretty clear to me that he doesn't give two shits about whether or not I enjoy it. I always liked being cuddly and close to him because he was such a sweetie but now when it comes to sex he just doesn't care. I'm hoping next time I'm dating someone I can find someone that's interested enough to at least TRY to get me off. For now when I'm in the mood I guess I'll just keep calling my friend up to get some intimacy into my life. (20 year old female)
I try really hard i have sex for hours i listen to every thing she says and also see how she responds to all types of stimulation. but still only sometimes i can make her cum. but whats disheartning is after she she waits till she thinks im asleep and starts to masterbate it is quite upsetting cause i try so hard. and alot of the time she says she tired and that can go on for days but she still masterbates and wakes me up in the middle if i touch her she pretends to be asleep. its getting to the point where i feel of no use and its only when she wants to have sex we have sex. if i refuse her she treats me like im a horrible person its just it build a murderous rage up inside me i find my self banging my head off the wall in angry rage of emotion. it seriously hurts me inside. i love her with my heart and soul but i am getting to the point of exploding and doing somting horrible to her. there is noting worst than the fear of the unknown. she says shes open to me but ive asked her about it and shes denied it many times then its putting thing in my head like she is indirectly insulting me calling me stupid by saying she dose'nt do it i've stoped her just as she about to cum over and over again to test her she was in a horrible shit mood the next day and then i said you didnt sleep well last night she was very snide towards me so i proved my point if she was really asleep she wouldnt have been pissed at me i know its childish but the only was to counter some one being childish is to be childish back and i proved my point to her. any ideas what to do? because im a nice guy but i left this problem and it released my horrible side every one has one. all she had to do was be honest. cause went some one you loves lies to you it can make you bitter. it made me think she was unhappy and that she was cheating and many other horrible things. im all ways honest with her it wold be nice if she could be to it make me think every thing that comes from her mouth is lies bollocks and horse shit. is there anything i can do cause i feel as if i cant trust her any more. i love her so much tho (20 - 29 year old male)
I find it easier with same partner and trust is built. I'm not in relationship had sex with few men nothing happens cause I'm not giving myself yet trust is Hugh for females (40 - 49 year old female)
My wife orgasms too quickly (in around 10 mins). Usually I use a mixture of foreful vaginal and gentle clitoral stimulation. After a few (which happens fairly quickly) she is too exhausted to even manually simulate me to my orgasm leaving me unsatisfied.
(30 - 39 year old male)
please how you cane let me to have orgasm with my partner (40 - 49 year old female)
I think Divine Source wired us so that Mother nature protects us women: the men that deeply care about our pleasure and happiness, wellbeing, get repeat business, increasing the chance of offspring. The men who are all about themselves cant protect the women and family and probably wont get the chance. Hopefully more women will stand up to men that dont care if they please anyone but themselves, and refuse to create children with a jerk. Ive had it both ways, Ill never put up with a man who doesnt care if Im satisfied. Life's short! (50-59 year old female)
As is already stated that most woman they reach orgasms after 30yr old where this cause the frustration of knowledge regarding the matter. Maybe according to my opinion if a woman have sex with many mates before the age of 30 and not reaching the point then after she reaches the age and she get orgasms it will be the surprise and a pride she wil gave to the man who did that to her...But there are types or characters of WOMAN...Mostly woman does not enjoy every time sex or sex for every day they need to rest sex for some days for more desire to have sex and this gives woman getting wet pussy cause if you try unnatural lube to give the vagina wet it means you are forcing where there's no need so for that there could be no orgasms ..I experience that for some few years in many different ladies cause orgasms need a rough ride .so for man to make or let a woman orgasms she must naturally fully wet for even able to use condom.
(40-49 year old male)
The absolute ONLY way I reach orgasm during intercourse with my partner is with a large, plug in the wall vibrator on my clit, which is very intrusive and impersonal and takes away all the excitement and passion of spontaneity. I am so completely beyond frustrated and jealous of men because they get to have an orgasm so easily every time. No wonder they always want it, and women stereotypically want it way less often. I'm not saying I never enjoy sex, but, again, I am extremely jealous. As a woman, anytime I've left a man "high and dry," so to speak, I'd never hear the end of it. Yet the man can finish and rolls over and is snoring in seconds. No matter how aware they are of my difficulty reaching orgasm or how caring they seem. It's always the same and it makes me angry. I'd like to rub a man's dick for fifteen minutes without him reaching orgasm, stop abruptly, roll over and snore the night away. Yeah let's see how that goes.
(20-29 year old female)
When I have to make my gf cum, sex is less fun and I admit I resent it. I do it to please her but often don't enjoy it so much. I wonder how male sexual pleasure correlates with female pleasure. Maybe they have negative correlation, meaning that when the woman enjoys it the man doesn't. :) For women who cum fast men probably have more fun.
(40-49 year old male)
men should now dat we have feelings on high percetanged. women love sex than men give t all to them.
(20-29 year old female)
When I was 22 I began squirting... I had no idea what I did or how I did it...I enjoyed sex but rarely did I have a clitoral orgasm. About 3 years later I began dating a guy with a very similar "anatomy" and Presto! started squirting! It felt incredible so I did some research and now I know that my "g" spot is where it's at for me! I can usually wiggle around enough to make sure I get mine several times, guess I'm still making up for all those years!
(50-59 year old female)
Never had a guy get me there. It's frustrating to the point I let them believe they did so they won't pout, etc.
(50-59 year old female)
I really want her to orgasm but she isn't willing to try anything different.
(60-69 year old female)
Well my issue is I have a wife who doesn't like to talk during sex, she seems to just lay there and take it, she has a hard time getting in the mood she says cause of having kids took her sex drive away. But I try to make her feel sexxy all the time I'm always complimenting her cause a man should! I just feel like either my Rick is to small which I doubt cause I'm 7 inches so I'm abit above average, but anywho she just seems to only finish when she's on top. I love doggy style but she says it hurts when I take her that way, and everything else seems to bother her, like she just does like anything I try to do! Anything! Is she in to me? Bored by me? Do I need a bigger cock? What is it? Can any honest women tell me? What am I doing wrong? Is she interested in other men? Or cheating? An answer to this would bring my self esteem up a notch cause man if I didn't come on to her... I don't know if I'd ever get to make love to her. P.s. please! Be honest. Thank you.
(30-39 year old male)
After menopause at age 45, it has been impossible to reach orgasm without a vibrator. Before menopause, I always came throughout oral sex and sometimes thought sex if I was on top. It is extremely frustrating and distressing and consumes me which probably leads to more anxiety. I hate it because I'm with a man I love and we've been together over a year. He is the first man I haven't climaxed with with a sexual aid and it is devastating for him as me. I'm almost 53 now and this has been going on for 3 years. I'm trying to slowing get away from using the vibrator as a crutch and learn to masturbate with the hope that I can orgasm with him. Toys get in the way sometimes. I don't know any of my friends who have this issue and it's extremely depressing for me.
(50-59 year old female)
I personaly have never enjoyed sex with my partner i only get to do so when i get to musturbete myself.what could be wrong with me?
(20-29 year old female)
Some women cang't have orgasms. Some women struggle but do rarely have them. Some women have them sometimes. Some women have them most of the time. Some women can have them every time they masterbate or have penetrative sex. Some women can only orgasm with their clitoris, others their Gspot. Every woman is different and should not try to be like everyone else, they should adjust and learn their bodies with or without a partner. I myself am a very easy orgasmic woman. I can orgasm from the initial penetration of my partner's penis. I can have so many orgasms before my partner has his first that I need a break or for him to finish soon. Women should not be just put under the 'Female' category, they are each individual and their responses to stimulation are too.
(20-29 year old female)